1. Many women dress up for the public but they don't put as much effort to dress up for their husband in bed. Lady, your number one audience is your man

2. Many women complain that their husbands don't sex them good, yet they do not express what they want their husbands to sexually do to them. Lady, your man doesn't read minds

3. Many women are shy in bed, largely because of their low self esteem making the husband feel as if he is forcing a sexual encounter with her since she comes off as disengaged in the act. Lady work on your self esteem, it directly affects your sex life

4. Many women do not praise their husband's performance in bed even when he is good. Lady, the more you talk well about his penis, the way he touches you, the way he licks you; the more he want to please you. Work on his ego

5. Many women belittle their husband, talk down at him with disrespect and then expect him to give great sex. Lady, when you undermine him and talk to him as if he is not man enough because he doesn't earn "enough money", he has failed in his goals a few times; be sure he will not be so interested in making love to you

6. Many women are inactive during sex because they think it is the husband's role to lead in sex. So she lies in bed, lifeless, passive and bored expecting him to do all the sexual heavy lifting. Lady, men too want to be sexually made advances on: both of you giving, both of you taking

7. Many women think that complaining and nagging will get a man to do the right thing. What they fail to realize is that it only leads to the man repelling the woman, he will struggle to desire to kiss her and touch her. She will drain him. To get a man to do what you want, inspire him, compliment him for the good he has done so far, show him how him doing right makes you smile because men love to be the reason a woman smiles. Then in bed, he will pursue you because he feels safe with you

8. Many women though they do not have sexual intercourse with another man, they are emotionally unfaithful. They engage another man or men in intimate discussions and chats as they wonder why the husband is angry at this. This makes the husband feel put off

9. Many women complain that the man is talking too much about sex, they tell him off. When the man tones down on the sex talk, the woman complains and becomes insecure doubting whether he still finds her sexy

10. Many women use sex as weapon. During an argument, they employ silent treatment as a tactic denying him his conjugal rights. Soon, the man gets used to living without her sex and suddenly she is the one who desperately wants sex just to prove to herself all is well in their marriage but the damage is already done

11. Many women do not observe good hygiene. When the weave stinks, armpits smell of sweat and the vagina area not well maintained; he will struggle to have sex with her. Lady, stay clean

12. Many women, especially conservative or Christian women view sex as dirty or of the world and so they don't fully release themselves in it, even in marriage. This is perhaps because they grew up being told "NO SEX" that they fail to realize sex is Godly and God's gift to nourish and sweeten their marriage. Lady, God created your body for pleasure with your spouse

13. Many women are rigid when it comes to sex, "Don't do this, I can't do that" - making sex an uphill task. Lady, relax; allow your body to be explored

14. Many women don't know how to say no to their husband. Lady, even when you feel you are not in the mood for sex because of your monthly periods, you are sick, your mood is low or you're tired; don't just brush him off. If you will not give him sex still make him feel loved. Cuddle with him, kiss him, have an intimate pillow talk, tell him you love him, tell him he will get some hot sex when he wakes up; do not make him feel ignored

15. Many women think that the best thing they have to offer is great sex and so they do not work on themselves, their attitude, their character, their dreams and individual progress. They only concentrate on getting tips on how to be sexy, how to twerk, how to squat, how to keep the vagina tight and not content to grow their mind, their business, their spirit. Eventually the man grows tired, drained and feels empty with her. A man needs more than a few hot minutes in bed

16. Many women compare how their current sex life is with the sex life they had with an ex or exes. Lady, the old is gone, the new has come.